When I reflect and think about all the people that have passed in my life. How they have affected me, touched me and impressed me in my life and as a person, it makes me feel like trying to count the corns of sand on a beach or the stars in the sky. Stars might be a better resemblence/metaphor since the stars are different in intensity, their brightness how they shine. But still positive as they all are equal in some way to us here on earth. They are radiating light regardless of how bright the light is.
And this is how I want to describe/evaluate/define to myself all the people that I have meet in my life, to keep a positive view in my way of giving them a grade from lets say 1 to 5. Where the 5 is the highest score and thereby the person that have affected me the most and 1 the least. But this does not grade them as they are as a person only what they have meant in the meeting with me. They are still a star! Not a black hole! This is why some other people will give them a 5 wheras to me they only are a 1. And vice versa!
I feel that you even learn positive things from negative meetings. But the basic idea is to keep the review of the people you have meet positive! Sometimes the meeting is very short but still very meaningful and kind of sticks to the cortex of your brain like superglew. Then on the contrary there are some acquaintances that can go on for years on end and be completly meaningless, no depth and most of all they are not progressive/developing! The story is only repeting itself every time you meet. Lately I have more or less terminated some of these acquaintances belonging to this category. Not because of enmity, hostility or any other negative cause or reason, but just that the friendship felt pointless, not only for me but I believe also for them.
What is important is that it has nothing to do with making the other person an enemy, less worth or defaming him or her. The wrong is as much mine as well, chemistry between people does not always work or last. I, for example, have a difficulty with people that I feel have stagnated in their development especially mentally/intellectually. They have become like a gramophone record that got stuck in a groove and repeat the same thing over and over again. A metaphor is that instead of changing the record people buy new stereo equipment thinking that this will cure the problem! Like so many people today believe that the cure to their problems is materialistic and that a new thing/gadget will fix/cure it!. We dont dare to change the ”record” ourselves, develop/challenge/change ourselves but prefer to continue in the same old groove making it deeper and deeper.
There is a story to illustrate this. There was an eagle that was tied to a stick so all it could do was to walk around and around, day out and day in! It was a specatacle because people came to watch this eagle. It went on year after year when one day the owner thought to cut the chain and give the eagle the freedom. Just so eagle could live the last days of his life in freedom. So he cut the chain and threw up the bird in the air and what happened? The bird flew straight back to the groove it had made through the years and continued the only thing he knew! To walk around the groove but now without the chain until he died!
You can say he died at 30 and was buried at 70! Is that you?