is definetly a big problem or from another view the best that could happen to you/oneself. Depending on what side you are.

There is a saying that what is one mans bread is the other mans poison. The one sees the view the other see the abyss.

I am not neccersarily a pessimist but more of an optimist, sometimes also a realist. Try to reason and objectify a problem or identify or rationalise in order to keep the problem /situation on armslength, figuratively speaking.

This is a strategy so it doesnt get to my feelings. Feelings are subjective and very seldom objective. This is why feelings can be such a trap for many People.