Kategoriarkiv: personal reflections

My day to day thoughts!

Comfort ZONE….

…can be so difficult to move outside, break the chain/routine of comfort. We get very easily accustomed to regularities. It is easy to understand,but for me I just cant find any comfort in this.

I am restless and have a difficulty in what most people consider COMFORT! My comfort in many peoples/friends eyes is maybe discomfort instead.

What is Peace of Mind? For me it is my journey to my final destination with some stops on the way. But I am a sojourner/traveller, passing through, always on the road of Life.

Even when I try to stop, grow roots, settle down be comfortable, create a comfort zone something happens. It is often out of my control and kind of forces me to break with the situation that I thought would be my comfort zone.

When you REALISE…

…that you are the next one to go! I was once a young man thinking that being immortal was part of the deal/package. Beacause there was so many before me that had to die……grandmother, grandfather, uncles, aunts, parents etc. And I thought of myself as someone way down the line and thoughts like this was the furthest away from me.

But suddenly the grandparents where gone and buried, but there were still plenty of aunts and uncles and of course my parents. But as time went on even they became mortals and died.

Now the conclusion is that it is my turn. The tables have turned and time has caught up with me as well. The immortal teenager. Suddenly I am the grandfather and next in turn.

Life is so definite!


different levels and how they can change. I feel very much that friendship can be defined in many ways. I could use numbers, where a friend number 1 is the best and 10 the not so best(still friend) or I could use colours where red is the hot and blue the cold….or metals, gold is very good friend, silver a lesser friend, copper, iron, brass etc.

Why this? Because just because a person is a number 10 does not mean he/she is an enemy. I just have to learn how to act when I am with these different categories.

To be a number 1 friend with me is not easy to achieve. Sad to say that just now there is no one in this category. I had some but they have slipped down to 3 maybe 4. Suddenly they have become acquaintances and have lost that special dimension.

As it is now my closest is my children and grandchildren. They are always number 1 and can never slip outside this.

I have another description of friendship and it is circular where the core the innermost circle belongs first to my children and maybe some friend but even this takes a lot of trust and mutual trust. I have to trust them and they have to trust me and also we give each other priority. In the2nd circle so to say I have some but even here I am careful. And in the 3rd you can have social acquaintances and even some work collegues.

Can write a lot about this but for right now I feel a little sad because of a former number 1 friend that now is nr 3 friend.


is definetly a big problem or from another view the best that could happen to you/oneself. Depending on what side you are.

There is a saying that what is one mans bread is the other mans poison. The one sees the view the other see the abyss.

I am not neccersarily a pessimist but more of an optimist, sometimes also a realist. Try to reason and objectify a problem or identify or rationalise in order to keep the problem /situation on armslength, figuratively speaking.

This is a strategy so it doesnt get to my feelings. Feelings are subjective and very seldom objective. This is why feelings can be such a trap for many People.

We can…

and will relate differently how we react in different situations and also under different conditions. In this I want to use 4 different Words as to how we generally react when we are suddenly confronted to something. 1. Externalise. 2. Internalise. 3.Rationalise. 4 Objectify.

a very wise advice…

this morning while listening to the radio I heard someone say something that immedietly went straight to my brain and heart. It was an african musican/artist that have an exhibition in Sweden right now. When he was interviewed the journalist asked what he wanted with this exhibition, did he have a message etc.

He so so wisely answered that ”I merely want to provide a place for thought”!

It is so true and it just struck me that this is what I would like to think about myself also ” a provider for thought/contemplation”. I know from experience that trying to convince people of ideas, lifestyle, religion etc is a futile project but to be a provider for thought/contemeplation sounds so much more effective and wise.

It kind of confirms one saying that I learned a long time ago……

A person convinced against his/her own will is of the same opinion still.

So be a thought provider and let people think for themselfes….they will anyway. But this helped me to be more relaxed and be more soft about my opinions.

Unconditional Love!

There are many kinds of love and also very many ways of expressing Love. Another important side, the ways to interpret Love is based on several conditions that you cannot overlook or forget when doing an analysis. My general idea of this way to interpret/understand Love have quite a few background variables that I will try to further expound/explain in this short essay. Some examples or ideas can depend on  where you are born, culture, religion, economic conditions/situation, size of family, gender, climate, political situation (democracy, dictator ship) etc. 

These above mentioned are essential variables when it comes to understand/explain what the word Love means and how it is practised in every day life around the world. The word Love is a universal word but have so many different colours that it makes the rainbow look like childs play with colours. The pallete to describe Love depends on who holds the pallete and what colours you decide to there. Sad to say in a few cultures Love is very/only black or white. To me Love has to include all colours or it is not Love. Love is including not excluding!

If we start with the cultural backgrounds to start off with, we have all the different european cultures that nearly all have their different ways of distinguishing the meaning/interpretation/implementation of Love. The Scandinavian, the german, french, italian, spanish, greek and more! You dont have to be a genius to imagine that there are differences by just reading the names of these countries. And this is just from the perspective from the word culture. Lets say you mix in additional factors like religion, language, history, political economic situation and not to mention gender. The difference being born a girl or a boy makes a huge difference what Love will mean for the rest of their lifes!

I want to remind my reader of the title ”Unconditional Love” how and what it means with these variables to take into consideration when using the word Love and for example saying ”I love you!” can be/mean such a huge difference depending who you are(background) and the person you say it to.

I have quite a bit of experience in this myself being swedish and have had relationship with women of different cultures etc and have had to learn how to adapt, compromise, accept etc many things. For good and bad, but mainly good because it has taught me a lot about Love and how different it is looked upon and how it is practised/performed in all of these different countries around the world.

I have also lived in many countries with a big variety of culture, history, religion, language etc. Among the countries that I have lived in are Italy, Greece, Spain, France, Thailand, lately I have travelled to Colombia and been there 13 Times. What Love is and how it is expressed when I lived in these countries has many different colours on the pallete and each country has their own distinguished colour, but of course with all the other colours includes. At least most of these countries allow to mix with all the colours but every country has their own main colour. Will ellaborate on this later in.  Mostly what I have learned and seen but this is just generally speaking. Love is very much being something that is surrounded by many rules and regulations, especially the Love between 2 persons. 

More to say about this and many personal experiences. Hope to write more soon!