is definetly a big problem or from another view the best that could happen to you/oneself. Depending on what side you are.

There is a saying that what is one mans bread is the other mans poison. The one sees the view the other see the abyss.

I am not neccersarily a pessimist but more of an optimist, sometimes also a realist. Try to reason and objectify a problem or identify or rationalise in order to keep the problem /situation on armslength, figuratively speaking.

This is a strategy so it doesnt get to my feelings. Feelings are subjective and very seldom objective. This is why feelings can be such a trap for many People.

We can…

and will relate differently how we react in different situations and also under different conditions. In this I want to use 4 different Words as to how we generally react when we are suddenly confronted to something. 1. Externalise. 2. Internalise. 3.Rationalise. 4 Objectify.

a very wise advice…

this morning while listening to the radio I heard someone say something that immedietly went straight to my brain and heart. It was an african musican/artist that have an exhibition in Sweden right now. When he was interviewed the journalist asked what he wanted with this exhibition, did he have a message etc.

He so so wisely answered that ”I merely want to provide a place for thought”!

It is so true and it just struck me that this is what I would like to think about myself also ” a provider for thought/contemplation”. I know from experience that trying to convince people of ideas, lifestyle, religion etc is a futile project but to be a provider for thought/contemeplation sounds so much more effective and wise.

It kind of confirms one saying that I learned a long time ago……

A person convinced against his/her own will is of the same opinion still.

So be a thought provider and let people think for themselfes….they will anyway. But this helped me to be more relaxed and be more soft about my opinions.

Unconditional Love!

There are many kinds of love and also very many ways of expressing Love. Another important side, the ways to interpret Love is based on several conditions that you cannot overlook or forget when doing an analysis. My general idea of this way to interpret/understand Love have quite a few background variables that I will try to further expound/explain in this short essay. Some examples or ideas can depend on  where you are born, culture, religion, economic conditions/situation, size of family, gender, climate, political situation (democracy, dictator ship) etc. 

These above mentioned are essential variables when it comes to understand/explain what the word Love means and how it is practised in every day life around the world. The word Love is a universal word but have so many different colours that it makes the rainbow look like childs play with colours. The pallete to describe Love depends on who holds the pallete and what colours you decide to there. Sad to say in a few cultures Love is very/only black or white. To me Love has to include all colours or it is not Love. Love is including not excluding!

If we start with the cultural backgrounds to start off with, we have all the different european cultures that nearly all have their different ways of distinguishing the meaning/interpretation/implementation of Love. The Scandinavian, the german, french, italian, spanish, greek and more! You dont have to be a genius to imagine that there are differences by just reading the names of these countries. And this is just from the perspective from the word culture. Lets say you mix in additional factors like religion, language, history, political economic situation and not to mention gender. The difference being born a girl or a boy makes a huge difference what Love will mean for the rest of their lifes!

I want to remind my reader of the title ”Unconditional Love” how and what it means with these variables to take into consideration when using the word Love and for example saying ”I love you!” can be/mean such a huge difference depending who you are(background) and the person you say it to.

I have quite a bit of experience in this myself being swedish and have had relationship with women of different cultures etc and have had to learn how to adapt, compromise, accept etc many things. For good and bad, but mainly good because it has taught me a lot about Love and how different it is looked upon and how it is practised/performed in all of these different countries around the world.

I have also lived in many countries with a big variety of culture, history, religion, language etc. Among the countries that I have lived in are Italy, Greece, Spain, France, Thailand, lately I have travelled to Colombia and been there 13 Times. What Love is and how it is expressed when I lived in these countries has many different colours on the pallete and each country has their own distinguished colour, but of course with all the other colours includes. At least most of these countries allow to mix with all the colours but every country has their own main colour. Will ellaborate on this later in.  Mostly what I have learned and seen but this is just generally speaking. Love is very much being something that is surrounded by many rules and regulations, especially the Love between 2 persons. 

More to say about this and many personal experiences. Hope to write more soon!

Mattinata, B&B Torre Sacena!

An amazing visit to this mini castle right on the adriatic sea just outside. A wonderful host! A little hard to find but the gps did the trick! Enjoy the pix.

A castle in miniature!

Impressive stairs and a beautiful entrance door.

A room and bed fit for a king.

Breakfast view.

The amazing rock beach with 3 different levels of rocks. Small closest to the sea and the next level slightly larger and thirdly the bigger ones.




Matera, Italy. October 2018.

My discovery of Matera started with a little walk…so I thought. After 4 hours I was far from being finished. There is still so much to discover in this city built both on the rocks and also inside, with innumerable cave dwellings.

Matera is built around a valley where the original dwellings were caves, carved out as dwellings.
Another italian city built on naked rock/hills.


A big rock in the middle of it all!

This is how the original Matera inhabitants were living.

Maybe this is how they started dwelling and making caves to live in.

inside the old city!

A small square.


The beautiful suroundings.

the bridge is quite ways down.


They alll thought that they were good and did good…but

Napoleon, Alexander the great, Hitler, Mussolini, Stalin,  Franco and many more that history has accredited them to be the more evil in the scale of evil!

Then you have the lesser evil persons! Among them we have a lot of learned men scientist, philosophers, priests and even some common men that might have meant to do good but other men have used it for a bad purpose.

Good is an inflated word that has more colours than we ever can imagine. Lets just take the colour of Grey. To me it is one of the most complicated colours there are. Why? Because the colour of grey is the colour that actually to me is not a colour! Why again! Grey is the colour that either is leaning on either how much or less black or white is mixed into it.

This is to me how you approach the truth and define it. Who or what is colouring/proclaiming to say that they have the truth. To me the most truthful people are thoose who say ”this is what I think” ”this is what I know” etc.. and then go on to say ”what do you think?” ”Do you have another point of view”. By doing this you come to a consensus, a mutual understanding and this is a bit closer to the truth.

Having conversations, arguments, dialoges etc is an essential part and path to find or know the truth.

And in a way these people that I mentioned in the beginning were not particulary known for being open to this above mentioned.

Sad to say today the world is getting filled up with these kind of leaders, with Trump and Putin leading the way. There is big problems ahead of us!